Sending friend requests on Discord is an easy way to connect with other users. Once someone accepts your friend request, you can direct message them even if you don’t share any servers. Here’s how to send friend requests on both desktop and mobile.
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Prerequisites
- A Discord account
- The full Discord tag (username + discriminator) of the user you want to friend
On Desktop
- Open the Discord app on your desktop
- Click on the Friends icon in the left sidebar Friends icon
- Click the Add Friend button at the top right
- Enter the full Discord tag of the user you want to friend
- For example
user#1234
- For example
- Click Send Friend Request
You can also send a friend request from a mutual server:
- Right click on the user’s name
- Click Send Friend Request
The user will receive a notification that you sent them a friend request. Once they accept it, you will see them in your friends list!
On Mobile
The process is very similar on mobile:
- Open the Discord app on your phone
- Tap on your profile picture at the bottom
- Tap on Add Friend
- Enter the full Discord tag and tap Send Friend Request
You can also send a request from a mutual server:
- Tap on the server name at the top
- Tap on the user’s name
- Tap on Add Friend
After you send the request, the user just needs to accept it and you will be connected!
Personalizing Friend Requests
When you send a friend request, you have the option to include a message. This allows you to personalize your request and explain who you are.
For example, if you met someone in a server, you could say:
Hi! We talked about Overwatch strategies in the FPS Lounge server. Just wanted to add you so we can discuss more in the future.
Taking the time to write a friendly message makes it more likely for your request to be accepted.
Accepting Friend Requests
When someone sends you a friend request, you will get a notification on Discord. Here is how to accept it:
On Desktop:
- Click on the Friends icon
- Pending requests will show up at the top
- Click Accept next to the users you want to friend
On Mobile:
- Tap your profile picture
- Tap Friend Requests
- Tap Accept next to the users you want to friend
And that’s it! Once you accept the request, that user will be added to your friends list.
FAQs
Here are some commonly asked questions about sending friend requests:
Why can’t I find someone by their username?
You need to use the full Discord tag (username + discriminator) to search for users. This gives each user a unique identifier.
What does “This user has disabled friend requests” mean?
That user has adjusted their privacy settings to not allow friend requests. You will not be able to send them a request.
Can someone send me a friend request without us sharing a server?
Yes! Anyone can send you a friend request if they have your full Discord tag.
Why are my friend requests failing?
This is typically due to a typo in the username or the user having full friends lists. Make sure everything is spelled correctly and ask them to clear up space.
What happens if I decline a friend request?
If you decline it, the user will get notified that you declined. They will not be able to send another request.
Conclusion
Sending and accepting friend requests is an integral part of building relationships on Discord. This allows you to bring conversations into private DMs and get to know other users better. Hopefully this guide has helped explain the process! Let us know if you have any other questions.
